The long holiday period is something many families look forward to – but it can also feel daunting. With six to eight weeks away from the usual school routine, families often find themselves juggling work commitments, holiday programmes, childcare, and the reality of having children at home much more than usual. For families with autistic children or children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), these changes can feel especially big.

The good news is that with some thoughtful planning and realistic expectations, the holiday period can be a time for connection, rest, and positive experiences – even if things don’t go perfectly all of the time.

Keep Some Structure (Without Over-Scheduling)

During the school year, children are used to predictable routines. When holidays arrive, that structure often disappears overnight. While a complete break from routines can feel freeing for some children, others – particularly autistic children or children with ADHD – may feel unsettled or dysregulated without some predictability.

Rather than trying to recreate a full school timetable, aim for a loose daily rhythm. This might include regular wake-up and bedtimes, consistent mealtimes, and a general flow to the day (for example: morning activity, lunch, quiet time, and afternoon play). Visual schedules or simple daily plans can be helpful, especially for children who benefit from seeing what’s coming next.

Balance Downtime and Activity

Holidays often come with pressure to “keep kids busy”, but too many activities can be just as overwhelming as too few. Many children need genuine downtime to rest and regulate – particularly after a busy school term.

Try to balance outings and holiday programmes with time at home. Quiet activities such as reading, drawing, Lego, puzzles, listening to audiobooks, or sensory play can help children recharge. For children with ADHD, short bursts of physical activity throughout the day – like bike rides, trampoline time, or trips to the park – can support regulation and focus.

Prepare for Holiday Programmes and Transitions

For families who are working, holiday programmes can be a great support. However, new environments, unfamiliar staff, and changes in routine can be challenging for some children.

Where possible, prepare your child ahead of time. Talk about where they’ll be going, who might be there, and what the day might look like. Visiting the location beforehand, looking at photos, or using social stories can reduce anxiety. Packing familiar comfort items, snacks, or sensory tools can also help children feel more secure.

It’s also okay to acknowledge that transitions may be tricky. Planning calm, low-demand time after a holiday programme day can help children decompress.

Support Emotional Regulation

Big feelings are common during the holidays. Changes in routine, increased social demands, and sensory overload can all contribute to meltdowns or emotional outbursts.

Try to notice early signs that your child is becoming overwhelmed and respond proactively. This might mean offering movement breaks, quiet time, or a change of activity. Emotion coaching – helping children name and understand their feelings without judgement – can also be powerful. Phrases like “I can see this feels really hard right now” help children feel understood and supported.

Remember, behaviour is communication. When things feel tricky, it’s often a sign that a child needs support, not discipline.

Maintain Skills Gently

Many families worry about children “losing skills” over the holidays. While rest is important, small amounts of gentle practice can help children maintain confidence without feeling like schoolwork.

For example, reading together, playing board games that involve turn-taking, cooking together, or having conversations during daily activities all support language, motor, and social skills in natural ways. Occupational Therapists, Speech Pathologists, and Psychologists often recommend embedding skill practice into everyday life rather than using formal worksheets.

Prioritise Family Wellbeing

The holiday period can place extra pressure on parents and carers too. Trying to work, manage childcare, and meet everyone’s needs can be exhausting. Be realistic about what you can manage and allow yourself flexibility.

It’s okay if some days are quieter than planned, or if screens play a bigger role than usual. Looking after your own wellbeing helps you show up more calmly and consistently for your children.

Reach Out for Support If Needed

If the holidays feel particularly challenging, you’re not alone. Many families benefit from additional support during this time. Therapy sessions can help children work on regulation, communication, or coping strategies and can also support parents with practical tools and reassurance.

The holiday period doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. With understanding, flexibility, and support, it can become a time for rest, growth, and connection – in ways that suit your family.